Conflict
Resolution Tips
Conflict Resolution Skills Development in the
Home by Kelly Nault (PDF)
TJ's Family Rules Template.
I was once in a small
homeschooling co-op and set up our disciplinary guidelines
so that each teacher would be consistent in dealing with the
kids, insha Allah and so that the kids could expect a
consistent course of action for inappropriate behavior.
I thought that this might come
in handy just in a general family setting. I know that
sometimes in the heat of the moment I make decisions based
upon how I am feeling that moment and sometimes come up with
disciplinary actions that don’t fit the nature of the
situation as behavior “experts” suggest (make the
“punishment/action” a natural consequence of the behavior).
So I am hoping that setting up appropriate courses of
action, based upon the situation beforehand
will help alleviate some of the fitnah that comes from
hastily thrown out disciplinary measures in the heat of the
moment and Allah knows best. Insha Allah, applying a
specific course of action, consistently, will prove more
effective. You can use
TJ's Family Rules Template to set up your own family
rules. It comes with 3 lists of behaviors (social/worship,
property, and academic). It has space for you to
record your family's course of action/consequences as well
as list ayaat or ahadith that you can refer to.
By coincidence, qadr Allah, the
author of the above article mentions creating a document of
this type as well. Be sure to take a peek to get some ideas
of putting a family rules document into action.
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